Often we are tempted to guide our children to practical things – a faculty to looking for, a successful career – but most of all we should think of encouraging them to follow their dreams even when some doors are closed. Moreover, an ambitious child is an ambitious adult that in the future will achieve its ideals. Here are some ways on how parents can encourage their children:
1. In childhood, any praise is welcome, but we need to know how to do it
He’s still small and he doesn’t seem to listen anyway. And you think so? Well, it’s very important for children to feel appreciated and to be praised from the first years of their lives. This doesn’t mean that we have to applaud the child to any small success, but that he simply has to know we appreciate him.
How can you praise the baby without exaggerating? The best method is to observe the process itself or observe the efforts it makes. Praise his initiative, the way he approaches a certain activity or duty and not necessarily his result.
2. Adolescence and post-high school period are critical to self-esteem
Is your child almost adult? It doesn’t mean that you have no more power over him when it comes to career attitude and professional engagement. In adolescence it is very important for him to explore his / her skills and interests. Encourage him to try more activities and go to any competition or contest. It’s a great way for him to test his skills and gain experience in controlling emotions. In college, more than ever, it’s an excellent time for him to take part in projects to test his knowledge.
3. Forget about comparisons. They are creating nothing but frustrations
Child, teen or almost adult, no matter the age of your son or daughter, comparisons with other people don’t do any good. Sometimes parents think it motivates them, but in reality comparisons have only negative effects. Moreover, brothers’ comparison has an impact on the child’s personality for life and should be always avoided.
Every child is unique in his own way, has his own personality and his own learning rhythm. When you compare it to another person, can discourage him and cause him to revolt and develop rebellious behavior just to prove that he is not like the person he was compared with.